Failure is a side effect of being human. No one is perfect, and there are going to be many times in your life when your plans just don’t pan out like you want them to.
Failure can be extremely difficult to deal with, but it can also be an invaluable opportunity to learn.
Someone very wise once told me, “Great things happen when you fail.” Ever since then, I have looked at failure differently. Failure is vital to our growth as individuals.
There are three tactics that you should reflect on in order to turn your failed relationship, career, or endeavor into a means of personal growth and motivation.
How You Can Learn From Failure
1. Figure out what really matters to you
Instead of letting failure tear you down, look at it in a new light. That door closing may be the push that you need to open up the door that will lead you to even greater things.
When things fall apart, you have to start from the ground up. Being left with nothing gives you the freedom to seek out what you want to accomplish the most in your life.
Time is something that we all have a limited amount of. In these moments when you realize that you have spent your time working towards something that didn’t end up coming through, you will discover how imperative it is to spend your time on something that you really want.
2. Learn from your mistakes
The greatest lessons in personal growthare the ones that you learn from firsthand experience. Pinpointing where things went wrong is a powerful way of ensuring that you can try and become more successful in the future.
The hard part is not letting your disappointment cloud your ability to evaluate the situation with clear an open mind. Take responsibility for the choices that you have made, but also remember that everyone makes mistakes. When you’re at your lowest point, the place to go is up.
Learning from your mistakes is difficult, but it’s not impossible. It may take a little time. Let your disappointment settle, give yourself space to mourn what you have lost, and then move on.
3. Move forward
I would argue that this is one of the most important principles. Coping with failure teaches you how to keep going, even when life is not going according to plan. In order to grow as a person, you will have to learn how to roll with the punches and get back up when you get knocked down.
Be persistent and use your failure as the motivation you will need to keep going. The things that you will be most proud of are the accomplishments that you had to work the hardest for.
The journey that you have endured along the way to success will make you a stronger person, but you have to take the first step and choose not to let failure break you.
What seems like the end of your dream may just be a bump in the road or a change in direction to something even better, but you’ll never know if you don’t try again. Humans are resilient. When you face adversity, you will have to tap into that power by knowing that even though have failed, you can choose to move forward and use it for personal growth.
There are going to be times when you fail. However, just because you fail it doesn’t mean that you should give up. Life is a process of trial and error. Your errors are essential to your personal growth because there is so much that you can learn from your mistakes.
Take your failure and turn into the means to become a more focused, determined, and resilient individual. Use it as a tool in order to shape you, but don’t allow it to define you.
Lauren Pickens is a freelance writer and Inspiyr contributor. She holds Bachelor of Arts in Communications and enjoys writing about lifestyle and culture. To read more of her writing visit her website.
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