Not taking action is a form of action; the wrong form.
4. Letting Fear Hold You Back
Just like over-thinking, fear can freeze you. At every phase of a relationship, fear can murder you. What if you walk up to a woman in a bar and say hello and then she stabs you? I’ve imagined that. You’re talking to her and want to hold her hand but then she might freak out and run screaming into the dark of night.
You are afraid to tell her you like her. You chicken out on asking her to prom.
There is nothing more unattractive than a man who is afraid.
If you just start taking action, if you put fear in your pocket and ignore it, your life will change dramatically.
5. Putting Her On a Pedestal
Nobody wants to be worshipped. I once had a friend who said a girl could never be too needy. So I set him up with the neediest girl I knew. He loved it for a few weeks but then he dumped her because she kept saying how she didn’t deserve him.
Women don’t want a groveler. They want a partner and a leader.
If you keep telling her she’s out of your league, eventually she will start to believe you!
And then she will dump you.
6. Having a Gross Apartment
I shouldn’t have to say this but your bathroom is probably disgusting. Almost every time a girl comes over, she will ask to use the bathroom before she gets kinky. And when she sees a black ring in that toilet, she is going to head for the hills.
Girls are more aware of cleanliness than men and a dirty apartment can freak them out. I know guys who won’t take a girl home when they realize their apartment isn’t clean. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot. Clean your place. It’s the easiest thing in the world. Turn your home base into your ally.
7. Making Your Life Revolve Around Women
What do you think happens when you go out hunting for women seven nights a week and you finally get a girlfriend? Suddenly, all your plans are cancelled. Your life becomes empty. Now all your plans revolve around hanging out with her.
Think of a new hobby. Fast!
Girls want to be with a man who has an amazing life. You need to start building that now. If you don’t have other things in your life besides your charm, all your relationships will die after a few weeks.
Be a Man Who Acts On His Intentions
You know who you are and you know what you want. And now you know what mistakes to avoid on the path to your destination. If you stay the course you can have long and amazing relationships.
Avoid these deadly pitfalls and you can have the girlfriend of your dreams.
Get-A-Girlfriend expert Jonathan Green holds a master’s degree in applied linguistics. A member of Mensa, he has taught at Vanderbilt University and overseas. He worked a decade as a DJ in clubs in the United States, Japan and UK. He has three sisters and loves to paint, draw with pastels and play the guitar. Jonathan qualified twice in the Junior Olympics in Taekwondo and once saved a girl from drowning.
Photo by Thomas Leuthard
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