The Ultimate Guide For Empaths: 9 Tips To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Illnesses

Can you absorb other people’s illness and pain?

As a psychiatrist, I’ve had many patients come to me with panic disorders, chronic depression, fatigue, pain, or mysterious ailments that respond only partially to medications or psychotherapy. Some were nearly housebound or ill for years.

They’d all say, “I dread being in crowds. Other people’s anger, stress, and pain drain me, and I need a lot of alone time to refuel my energy.”

When I took a close history of all these patients, I found that they were what I call “physical empaths:” people whose bodies are so porous they absorb the symptoms of others. I relate because I am one.

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Physical empaths do not have the defenses that others have to screen things out. Knowing this significantly changed how I treated these patients. My job became teaching them to center and protect themselves, set healthy boundaries, and let go of energy they picked up from others.

To determine if you are a physical empath, take the following quiz.

Quiz: Am I a Physical Empath?

Ask yourself:

* Have I been labeled as overly sensitive or a hypochondriac?

* Have I ever sat next to someone who seemed nice, but suddenly my eyelids got heavy and I felt like taking a nap?

* Do I feel uneasy, tired, or sick in crowds and avoid them?

* Do I feel someone else’s anxiety or physical pain in my body?

* Do I feel exhausted by angry or hostile people?

* Do I run from doctor to doctor for medical tests, but I’m told that I’m fine?

* Am I chronically tired or have many unexplained symptoms?

* Do I frequently feel overwhelmed by the world and want to stay home?

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If you answered “yes” to one to three of these questions, you are at least part empath. Responding yes to four to five questions indicates you have moderate degree of physical empathy. Six to seven indicates you have a high degree of empathy, while eight indicates you are a full-blown empath.

A Survival Guide for Empaths to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Symptoms 

Physical empathy doesn’t have to overwhelm you. Now that I can center myself and refrain from taking on other people’s pain, empathy has made my life more compassionate, insightful, and richer.

Here are some secrets to thriving as a physical empath that I’ve learned so that it doesn’t take a toll on my health.

1. Evaluate.

First, ask yourself: Is this symptom or emotion mine, or someone else’s? It could be both.

 

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If the emotion is yours, gently confront what’s causing it on your own or with professional help. If it’s not yours, try to pinpoint the obvious generator.

2. Move away.

When possible, distance yourself by at least twenty feet from the suspected source. See if you feel relief. Don’t err on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place, don’t hesitate to change seats if you feel a sense of “dis-ease” imposing on you.

3. Know your vulnerable points.

Each of us has a body part that is more vulnerable to absorbing others’ stress. Mine is my gut. Scan your body to determine yours. Is it you neck? Do you get sore throats? Headaches? Bladder infections?

At the onset of symptoms in these areas, place your palm there and keep sending loving kindness to that area to soothe discomfort. For longstanding depression or pain, use this method daily to strengthen yourself. It’s comforting and builds a sense of safety and optimism.

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4. Surrender to your breath.

If you suspect you are picking up someone else’s symptoms, concentrate on your breath for a few minutes. This is centering and connects you to your power. 

5. Practice guerilla meditation.

To counter emotional or physical distress, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. Do this at home, at work, at parties, or conferences.

Or, take refuge in the bathroom. If it’s public, close the stall. Meditate there. Calm yourself. Focus on positivity and love.

6. Set healthy limits and boundaries.

Control how much time you spend listening to stressful people, and learn to say “no.”

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7. Visualize protection around you.

Visualize an envelope of white light around your entire body. With extremely toxic people, visualize a fierce black jaguar patrolling and protecting your energy field against intruders.

8. Develop X ray vision.

The spaces between the vertebrae in your lower back (lumbar spine) are conducive to eliminating pain from the body.

It’s helpful to learn to mindfully direct pain out of these spaces by visualizing it leaving your body. Say goodbye to pain as it blends with the giant energy matrix of life!

9. Take a bath or shower.

A quick way to dissolve stress is to immerse yourself in water. My bath is my sanctuary after a busy day. It washes away everything from bus exhaust to long hours of air travel to pesky symptoms I have taken on from others.

Related: 7 Ways To Get Rid Of Stress And Feel Great

Soaking in natural mineral springs divinely purifies all that ails.

The Takeaway

Empaths, keep practicing these strategies. By protecting yourself and your space, you can create a magical safe bubble around you that nurtures you, while simultaneously driving negative people away. Don’t panic if you occasionally pick up pain or some other nasty symptom. It happens. With strategies I discuss in my book to surrender other people’s symptoms you can have quicker responses to stressful situations. This will make you feel safer, healthier, and your sensitivities can blossom.

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dr judith orloffJudith Orloff MD is author of the national bestseller The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life, upon which this article is based. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and New York Times bestselling author who synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness.

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