Well, not according to some swingers; they say that swinging is only about sex and nothing more. In many cases, swinging couples maintain a normal emotional relationship with their spouse but choose to have sex with other people. The difference between swinging and cheating is that swingers are cognizant of any encounters that occur with their partners. The average human response to a partner sleeping with somebody else varies by case, but some swingers actually have high levels of happiness in their relationships. Essentially, there are happy swinging couples and happy monogamous couples; it just depends on the values of those in the relationship.
Ultimately, there is no doubt about the fact that swinging challenges the conventional definition of a relationship. The ability of humans to transcend their moral hesitations for the sake of sexual enjoyment is undecided. Is swinging just a selfish excuse for fulfilling your sexual desires, or is it the future of the marriage?
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My wife and I have and open marriage and have shared partners without any problems. Many of our past problems were related to fulfilling our sexual desires without honesty and openness. Since we’ve chosen our new lifestyle, it has made us more honest and open about our sexuality without hurting each other.
This lifestyle is not for everyone and carries risks, but far less risk than our previous lifestyles in which wanted things very badly and like most humans could only hide our urges so long before acting on them and feeling a great amount of shame. It was not until we both realized what we wanted and came to an agreement with a structured set of rules to protect our emotions that we have enjoyed a fabulous marriage.
Swinging is not the future of marriage.
Swinging makes the future of a marriage become divorce.
Swinging is just a cute or exciting sounding word that gets things from better to worse a whole lot quicker than you’d hope for.
Read the vows.
Swinging isn’t marriage. It’s one of the enemies of marriage.
I knew several couples who decided this would perk up their marriages/relationships. My hubby and I did not join but were aware of the meetings and escapades. All was fine in the beginning,the excitement and newness of it all. Then a year or so into it the problems began. One spouse wanted to swap with another couple too often, then he saw the other wife without the spouses and one family, well, the teenage kids found out what mom and dad did as a hobby. Long story short, not one marriage survived, families were destroyed, kids lost respect for their parents and things just got really ugly. We no longer speak to the other couples because the drama was just too much. Not one person involved saw this coming, but we did from a distance. All were educated, nice people who thought they could handle the jealousy and emotions that come into play when having sex. I ran into one of the wives involved and she asked me if we were still married. I said yes, she said she would still be with her ex if they didn’t sleep with the neighbors. So sad. Very Weird.
For those who think that sex is a sport and marriage is just a convenience then go right ahead. I will keep on enjoying the freedom of selflessly sharing everything with wifey within the safe boundry of our marriage!
The Romans were having sex with each other all over the place. It seemed to work for them. They had paintings on all their walls of their sexual activity with their partners, their friends, often having sex in front of their slaves. Everyone was at it. Their whole approach was open, it was not until Christianity came along that we put rules on it and sex changed. We seem to have more problems now than in Roman Times.