7 Most Common Dating Mistakes Men Make

Let’s cut to the chase. Women are awesome! Dating women, spending time with women, being surrounded by women is awesome.

Unless you’re trapped in the “friend zone”…

Then being around women can be torture. You are in a prison and beautiful women are the guards. They are all around you, but you can’t reach through the bars to touch them.

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I have been where you are. But I escaped. And now I can help you arrange your own prison break.

The thing about this escape is that it’s not about what you should do; it’s about what you must not do. If you can avoid these seven deadly dating sins, then you can have a life worth living.

Avoid These Dating Mistakes Like the Plague

1. Being Too Eager

You want a girl. You want to date her. But if you get too excited and push too hard you will kill her attraction for you. Wood needs two things to burn, fire and oxygen. If you cover her with your fire, she can’t get any oxygen and will pull back just to be able to breathe.

Give her the space to fall for you. Let her know you are interested but don’t go for the full court press.

2. Acting Like a Child

As children we hold our mom’s hand and let her lead us everywhere. She tells us what to do and where to go. We are used to letting a woman lead us around.

Do not do this with a woman you’re attracted to. Every time she leads you through a club or picks the restaurant or movie, a little part of her attraction for you dies. She will stop feeling like your girlfriend and start feeling like your mommy.

Women like men of action; decision-makers, trigger-pullers. If you can’t pick a restaurant, how are you going to protect her when there is a noise downstairs in the middle of the night?

Stop acting like a child. Start acting like a man.

3. Over-Thinking

You like a girl. You spend months planning out the perfect way to ask her out. But the day before you do, some random dude just walks up and asks her out. Now they’ve been dating for months and are talking about getting married. And you get to cry yourself to sleep at night.

Ninety-percent of dating is actually about taking action.

You wouldn’t believe how often

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7 thoughts on “7 Most Common Dating Mistakes Men Make

  1. Point Number 2 when you talk about pulling the trigger, bla bla bla, should’ve included an exclusion clause for people like Oscar Pistorious

  2. Surely, girls want their boyfriends to be a man, to be in charge. But be careful not to be over-controlling, it could spoil everything. Try to “respect” her needs, her opinions and her feelings.

  3. Fear. This is what got my attention. A man’s fear. I met my ex 16 years ago at a bar. He asked me a question and then said, are you going to slap me now? I cracked up laughing at his boyish somewhat drunken cocky behavior. He got my # 3 weeks later. We married a year after that, from that point on was pure hell for the next 10 years. Separated, divorced 4 years ago. Now he rents a room from me in a house I bought after our divorce. We are very good friends, he takes care of me, protects me, all the things he should have done when we were married.
    Personally, I think it’s just like being married only better because we don’t fight, argue, have mutual respect, ect. We know each other, and rarely had sex when we were married which was a big problem. He cheated. We had sex for a year before he moved in with me this time and it was as awesome as the 1st time. Now that he lives with me he doesn’t want to have sex because he thinks it will ruin our friendship. He tells our friends that one of us will want more. I have made up my mind. I would love to have sex with him but I’m not waiting. He is afraid of what will happen and by thinking it won’t work, it won’t. He really loves me more than he did when we were married. A woman can tell by what a man says to her, does and treats her. I knew every time. We have totally forgiven each other for both our parts and treat each other with mutual respect, compassion and learned to talk.

    I know he wants to have sex with me so bad, but something, his fear, which you brought up is holding him out. When I find someone else, he is out and it will change our friendship because there will be this 3rd person. One female friend who know him better than she knows me says he can handle me with another man, but she wasn’t living with him for 12 years. She wasn’t married to him. People don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. She just found out he had cheated on me before. That is not my concern because I know he doesn’t want anyone but me. However, I can’t hold out waiting either. I have even tried, just do it for the physical relief. (he has his own room, invites me in to watch t.v. ect. talk, hang out.

    What I need to know is: 1. How can I get him to change his mind and not worry about what will happen until something happens when we have sex again or 2. Just move on for my benefit which I know will change our relationship because like I said, there is a 3rd person at that point and I don’t cheat. I will be spending less time with him, he will be caring for my pets. He works off repairs for his rent. He is self employed and business is slow. He is also depressed about that. I beleive he is in denial that he can handle it because I had a date over to watch t.v. three months ago. Thirty minutes after my date got here, he left and didn’t come home untill wee hours of the morning but he does that anyway. The only thing differnet was he just up and left. He still knows the exact date. I don’t. He has lived his whole life in a nearby city. Not a big deal to me. I like my time alone, I have self esteem, I’m 55, he is 56. I know I am hot for my age. I could have almost any man I wanted for sex but I want a bit more than that. I’m in no way pushing him for sex. I just know he really wants too from a different female friend. We have known these people for years. I just don’t get it, don’t understand it, or what to do. I don’t want to add to the problem by introducing another man in my life, espec when I want him and I know he wants me. He isn’t going to change his mind until something triggers it. Maybe it will be that other man. Can you give me some suggestions? I know this is a man’s site which is why I’m here. I want a man’s view on the subject. I could go on and on but I think you understand without more details.

    • I’m 49, went through three decades of depression. It almost cost me my life many many times. If his is as vicious as mine was, that’s hard as f-bomb to deal with. Day to day, even moment, to moment. He’s a little older, so those issues are a little above my understanding. At least he can work, that’s a positive. What’s changed depression, for a huge amount of anxiety, and ——-. I wish you success.

    • You need to deliberately focus on finding another man. You cannot change somebody’s basic traits. If he hasn’t changed in all these years and now he is 56, what’s the chance of changing him now ? And how long that change will last ? It’s time for you to move on. I don’t know if it is a good idea for you both to live so close. Get your life together and start a new chapter with somebody who’s a right fit for you. You need somebody who is a man in a relationship in every way. You don’t need a guy who helps you in doing the chores, repairs, watch the dogs etc. At least you cannot have a romantic long-term healthy relationship that culminates into something meaningful and permamnent with the guy who helps you around the house but when it comes to communicating and making things magical in a relationship, he needs help too. Of course, he wouldn’t be around your date, so he’ll leave. Probably you’re reading too much into it. That’s just normal. And it will happen everytime. It will be very strange if he starts chatting-up your date to make him feel more welcome and comfortable so your relationship can progress with this date. Yes he respects you but respect may not turn into passionate sex. Also, when he invites you to his room, he wants company, nothing wrong with that. Probably, you’re again reading too much in every little gesture of his. If he thinks, sex will ruin the relationship then he’s not ready to take it to the next level or he is too afraid. In either case, he’s right. If he’s not ready or doesn’t want to risk it, he shouldn’t do it. If he’s too afraid, he shouldn’t do it because action speaks louder than words. And he’s unsure of action. When a man is unsure, even if he does things out of pressure or to please a partner, there is no long-term future for it to happen again n again and that too enjoyable, passionate sex. If you consider all these scenarios, it’s wiser for you to move on to the right person. Do not waste your time and feelings, and ruin this great friendship. If your relationships do not work out, you’ll have his shoulder to cry on. This is every woman’s dream. You have an unconditional friend and now you need to find a romantic partner with unconditional love for you. All the very best !

    • Firstly u went to her and start talking again, try to read her mind that how she react. U talk about your previous day that your spend with her and slowly u try to back your relationship before u do this first u think why u were feel fair during the sex? Its so easy try it.

  4. Great article! I agree with almost everything said. Except that girls always want to be lead.

    You’re right, girls don’t want to feel like their boyfriend’s mother but they do want to have a voice.

    Also, I think the most attractive thing in a man is drive. If he’s 24 and working at a restaurant that’s okay! As long as he doesn’t want to be working there when he is 40 and has a plan to change it!